Friday, January 29, 2010

Happiness Now

Today's guest post was written by *Kay from Apartment #412 and Ice Cream & Peonies.

Hi Mandy's readers! As you're probably aware, Mandy is on a much deserved week-long blogging break. I've been reading Knowing The Difference for probably over a year & it has become one of my most favourite blogs. I can say, without a doubt, that over this year Mandy has become one of my closest 'blog friends' so when she asked me if I'd contribute a post here while she's taking a break I of course agreed! I've never guest posted before (keeping both of my blogs Apartment #412 and Ice Cream & Peonies updated is a fun handful) so I stressed about what to write about for a few days & then something came to me, something I'd actually discussed with Mandy via one of our g-chats, so I wanted to share it here with you all. 
Delaying pleasure/enjoyment/satisfaction until the "perfect/right" moment. Why do we do this? We know we want to do something, achieve something, heck buy something but we wait because the moment or something - isn't “perfect.” Now, I'm not necessarily talking about big life changing decisions (though it certainly applies). I'm talking about the smaller, day-to-day things, the simple things that could bring us pleasure or joy or make our day that much more brighter. Example? Sure! For Christmas my cousin & his girlfriend bought me small portable speakers I could attach to my iPod. I loved it. I immediately thought I would put it in my bathroom so that, you know, I could create a 'shower playlist' and sing at the top of my lungs. But I didn't have the perfect spot in my bathroom - so I thought "I'll put it in my bedroom." But I don't have a dresser yet...or night tables...so I didn't have a perfect spot there either. So I left the speakers, in their box, on the floor....waiting until I had the perfect place to set it. I looked at them every day & thought how great they’d look - when I had the perfect spot. I envisioned myself getting dressed in the morning & dancing to whatever had popped up thanks to the shuffle feature. Every time I took a shower I thought "I could be listening to some Lady Gaga or Jay-Z" right now. I even went as far as putting my iPhone on speaker and putting it really close to the tub so I could try and hear the music over the shower - it wasn't working...plus I worried about getting water on it. Finally, about a week ago - I said "screw it" I put 1 speaker on the top of the toilet bowl (I have a tray on the bowl), plugged it in, connected my iPod & BLASTED music. It was the BEST. I was SO happy. "Why didn't I do this sooner?" I thought. “What was I waiting for?”



So I guess what I'm saying is: don't put off your happiness for tomorrow when you can have it today...when you can have it now. Especially if it's a little thing. Have beautiful images or artwork that you're waiting to get framed before you hang & enjoy them? Heck, tack 'em up & enjoy them now*! Waiting to lose "the last 5 pounds**" before you get that hair cut you've wanted forEVER? Come on - go for it!
Any thing(s) you can do now...today...to make you happier? Even something seemingly small (like my speakers)? I’d love to know!
*just please do eventually frame them...because, you know, it'll look better in a frame ;)
**though I am waiting until I lose "the last 15 pounds" before I buy a new wardrobe. I know, I know...

10 comments:

Mrs. Limestone said...

Well said!!

SAJ said...

wow! This so hit the nail on the head for me. I'm a card carrying member of that club and I'm ready to get out. I'm always waiting for the stars to align before I do this, that and the other. Great motivation kicker and a great way to start my weekend.

walkingwithnora.com said...

Simple things I could do today...

1. Sit down after work with a cup of tea, my laptop and my google reader. Reading/commenting on my friend's blogs makes me happy.

2. The stack of cards I bought but haven't sent yet? Write them, stamp 'em, send 'em. My friends don't always need an eloquent paragraph from me! Just a simple Hi!How are ya!? Ought to do.

3. Make an exercise playlist for my mp3 player. not hard to do, just haven't done it yet.

Great post =)

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loopluroop said...

Kay, I loved this. So much.

I do this all the time--for example, I recently moved, & so I have a new bedroom.

I've been *planning* on putting up two paintings a friend of mine did for me since last year, but I've yet to do it.

Either I can't decide where to put it because there are other things I want to put on my wall--or I don't want to put it up and then have to take it down when I did decide what else I want on my wall, or this or that... there is never a shortage of excuses.

I totally agree with you--we'll be so much happier if we stop waiting on perfection--especially when it has to do with the small things.

chickbug said...

what a great post! I'm going to go think about the simple things I can do to make myself a little happier...thanks for the inspiration!

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

This sort of reminded me of my post - how we put things off for the future, while big or small.

I think some simple things i could do is take more time for myself to do things like knitting and really not feel guilty or like I should be doing something 'productive' like cleaning...

Oh, and everytime i get a latte, that is definitely one of the best simple pleasures of life moments each week. :)

Carolina said...

this is sooo pretty! it made my heart feel instantly happy! we so often forget to enjoy all the little moments in the now.

What would make me sooo happy right now is to paint my nails in essie mint candy apple and then stare at how pretty they look :)

karey m. said...

you're so right. i always wait and wait because my plans usually call for a lot of prep work...

but do they really? probably not.

this was inspiring, you. i mean it. loved reading it.

xoxo.

LifeBegins@Thirty said...

I totally agree! That is the reason why everything takes me FOREVER!

Great post!