Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Honesty

"If you truly want honesty, don't ask questions you don't really want the answer to." ~ Proverb

I believe in honesty. Its something that I strive for here on my blog when I'm sharing my thoughts and feelings. Its something I live by with my family and friends. Over the years, I've learned that the people's opinions I value and trust the most are those who have been honest with me, telling me the truth instead of what they thought I wanted to hear. 

I was recently approached by someone in my life who directly asked me some questions. When confronted, I gave this person honestly. It was hard for them to hear the answers and I know my answers weren't what they were looking for. I've been tap dancing around certain subjects with this person for a while now, not wanting to intentionally hurt their feelings but also not wanting to lie to them, not wanting to be the proverbial bad guy. 

I'm still at odds and a bit conflicted over the whole conversation. I'm sure feelings were hurt. I know there were tears. Along my journey I've learned that if you're not ready to hear the honest answers, you probably shouldn't ask the questions.

What do you do when confronted with questions others ask? Are you brutally honest or do you sugarcoat the truth to keep the peace? When it comes to asking the questions, which do you prefer?