Monday, January 18, 2010

Long Distance Friends

There is magic in long-distance friendships. They let you relate to other human beings in a way that goes beyond being physically together and is often more profound. ~Diana Cortes

I've been thinking a lot about my friendships both old and new. The people I consider my friends are those that have grown up with me in some way. Maybe they are a childhood friend. One who spent countless nights sleeping over tucked into sleeping bags and struggling to stay awake past midnight. Or maybe they are a cherished friend from my teenage years when I experienced my first heartache, celebrating high school milestones like driving around town just because we could with our newly laminated drivers licenses, and moving the tassles on our graduation caps. Then I have my beloved college friends who saw me through all nighters, semesters I thought would never end, fun nights out on the town when I drank a little too much, and stayed in touch after we all went separate ways no long living down the hall from each other. 


I have been incredibly lucky to find some amazing people through this little space I've carved out for myself here online. Friends who call to ask if everything is ok when I've been offline for a while. Friends who send text messages just telling me to have a great day. Friends I can spend hours discussing everything from the latest book we're both reading to plans or fears for the future. Most of these friends I've never met face to face but that doesn't make them any less real to me. They are friends who are growing with me as I gain the confidence to go after my dreams, the ones who encourage me to keep going when I think it would be easier to give up, the ones who email me excatly when I need a smile. They are the ones who send me text messages with funny messages that only we would understand. They are the ones who send cards in the mail when I least expect it.


My long distance friends are people I consider to be among my nearest and dearest, among those closest to my heart. They are friendships that are a bit unconventional in that they are based on reading the others innermost thoughts and emotions that a lot of us don't discuss in every day conversations. They are friendships that take more effort to maintain because often they span several states and sometimes other countries, the phone conversations and skype dates sometimes have to be planned days in advance and always leave me feeling a bit happer, my heart a little bit lighter. 


Even though I may not share every day moments like spontaneous coffee dates or marathon sessions of Rock Band, I share a different part of myself with my long distance friends. All of my friends hold a special place in my heart, but I'm realizing how important my long distance friends have become as premanent fixtures in my life. I wouldn't have it any other way.



27 comments:

walkingwithnora.com said...

I'm kind of in love with this post.

So beautifully written and SO TRUE.

I'm blessed to have you as one of my nearest and dearest friends, both far and wide.

Frank said...

Oh we'll meet someday...just as soon as I suppress my gag reflex enough to enter Ohio again :P

Amy --- Just A Titch said...

It's really true---far away friends are just as near and dear as close-by ones. Blogging has brought me some of my BFF's and I'm so grateful.

Ashley said...

Isn't that just the most amazing thing about blogging? What I think is funny is that none of us expected the friendships and connections when we started, but I think it keeps a lot of us going.

MeLaNiE said...

well said! love the quote!

Bayjb said...

This post is SO true and so sweet. My blog friends are so near and dear to me because of what we share together online and see each other true.

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

Beautiful post, Mandy. I'm in love with my blogging friends!! I like them more than some of my real friends actually ;-)

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

I agree with Nora - love this post! It is so true! I am so glad we met and I feel so lucky to be able to call you a friend! I love our phone chats and I just can't wait for us to all meet up so we can finally chat over coffee and play marathon sessions of Rock Band, or whatever! Will be so fun!!

sleepyjane said...

This is such a great post! It's exactly how I feel about my friends I made through blogging.

Cate said...

Amen. I'm with you - friendships are so very important, new ones, old ones, long-distance ones. I've reconnected with a few people recently, and I just couldn't imagine my life without them. Very well put.

jnyfritz said...

that is absolutely perfect! you are the best LDBFF!

emily-jane.net said...

What a wonderful post. I'm one of those people who doesn't really have a whole lot of real life friends, but thanks to the internet, the friends I made over ten years ago when I lived in the UK have remained some of the closest friends I have. And thanks to blogging, I'm blessed to have found wonderful people like you - and I hope one day we can meet face to face and share coffee :)

Elle Bee... said...

You said all of this perfectly. xo

Ray said...

SO true, blog friends are the best :)

Pam said...

Another great post. I am still amazed at how many wonderful friends I have made through my blog.

SoMi's Nilsa said...

I love this post, Mandy. For me, I have a lot of IRL friends. And the reason I have so many is they all play a different role in my life. I think my online friends are just an extension of that. They know me in a slightly different way than everyone else does, but it doesn't mean they are any less on the friendship scale. Glad you're finally seeing that, too.

RebeccaC said...

So interesting! As with you, most of my closest friends (all of them??) live at least 500 miles away.

I guess the time you DO get to spend together ends up being more precious because its so rare. Even if you're just laying around being morons together.

Kyla Roma said...

So beautifully put, I'm with you 100% of the way. If it weren't for long distance friendships I would be a terribly lonely girl.

Thanks, miss <3

thatShortChick said...

this is perfectly written and expressed. this is exactly how I feel about my IRL friends and blogger buds.

love it.

Kay* said...

so well written! there are a handful of bloggers i've come to think of as friends - sometimes i wonder if i'll ever meet them 'in the flesh' i hope so!

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

this post was so very true, and i can relate to it all.

can we make a point to meet in 2010?? we are so close, i know we can do it!

amanda said...

smoooochies. friends are the best. you sum it up perfectly!

um, give me your number, i'll text you slash call to check up on you.

can't wait for our meeting date when you come stomping through my neck of the woods!

xoxox

Little Fish said...

Love this post, love you!

Tonya said...

Love this! I feel the exact same way about my long distance friendships. I love all the e-mailing, twitter convos and reading each others blogs. I have found the most amazing women through the blogging community and I am so glad that I am a part of it!!

Pam said...

I wish we were neighbors so I could bring you a bowl of the leftover chicken and dumplings today. I hope you feel better soon!

Auburn Kat said...

The majority of my friends are long distance friends and while I do love it, I wish I could spend time with them too!

awmb said...

This is so true. I hold my long distance friends as close as I can, and have quite a lot of real friends because of it. With one person in particular, I have had this for more than 5 years and we're still going strong. And I am so so thankful for it.
You're a beautiful writer.