Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Mismatched

A little over a year ago my mom was in the midst of overhauling the living room. While up to her elbows in paint and carpet samples, she tried to decide what to do with all the random photographs that were laying around. After the new furniture was delivered and things were back in some semblance of order she settled on doing a picture wall above one of the couches.

Then the dilemma became to use matching frames or various frames we had around the house. While I'm not a fan of everything matching I lobbied for all new matching frames. As usual, Big T chose the opposite and decided to just use different frames -- some wood, some metal, some hanging vertically, others hanging horizontally. Once my mom makes up her mind there's no changing it so I didn't even try. I thought it would look a little disorganized and chaotic. Completely mismatched.

However, now as I sit on the opposite couch looking at the pictures., I realize I was wrong. There are candid snapshots of my brother and I, my stepbrother's little girls. and one of my parents at a friends wedding. There are professional shots of my stepbrother and stepsister, one of my mom and her three sisters, and one from my grandparents 50h wedding anniversary with aunts, uncles and cousins. The picture at the very center of the wall is one of my parents surrounded by all of us kids the day they were married. Gazing at these pictures now, I know my mom got it exactly right.

I know I don't talk about them much here on the blog but I have two stepbrothers and a stepsister. While I've never spent more than a long weekend or a few weeks at most with them, they are part of my family. Through social networking and facebook I'm learning more about them and staying in touch with them. I enjoy dinners and beer tastings with my stepsister when she is in town. My stepbrothers daughters are really, really cute kids.While our lives are connected, they all live in other parts of the country. We're all extremely different people. Quite honestly, just about the only thing we have in common is my mom married their dad but over the years we've learned to find similarities.

Looking at the pictures on the wall in their mismatched frames seems so perfect. We're a mismatched family. Different values, different beliefs, different backgrounds. Like the picture frames themselves, no two of us are alike but at the same time we all sort of go together.

15 comments:

♥ Tiffany ♥ said...

i love this! i have a blended family too and i love that you can appreciate it and all it brings. i always say i have a crazy family in terms of who is what but its all filled with love and you seem to have that too, yay!! <3 you!

Amber (Girl with the red hair) said...

That's SOO cool! I love the idea of having a picture wall with all mismatched frames like that! You should totally post a picture of it, I'm curious now :-)

jnyfritz said...

i cannot imagine any other way to have a family-it just works and i love how you illustrate that with the photo wall...someday we will have one of those as well!

SoMi's Nilsa said...

I love how you pieced this post together. It's really quite beautiful. And it sort of reminds me of Sweets' and my families and how we come from such drastically different backgrounds and the only thing bringing us together is Sweets and me and yet we all sort of go together. We fit. And it's really quite lovely.

nory said...

What a great post/story. I was kind of hoping we'd get to see a photo of the wall of photos =)

I'm glad that you're embracing your family, no matter how different you may be from one another because at the end of the day, it's true that you really do have each other's backs!

Pam said...

Great post! I think mismatched is the most interesting sometimes - in frames or families.

Elle Bee... said...

Beautiful post, Mandy.

LovelyAnomaly said...

Aww. Perfect.

Katelin said...

aw i love this post. and that is such a sweet sentiment of the mismatched frames capturing the essence of your family, but in the best way possible :)

love it!

Lisa from Lisa's Yarns said...

Beautifully written. Mismatched makes things more interesting.

You should totally post a pic of the wall!

Auburn Kat said...

I really liked reading that! I also love meeting people that have similar backgrounds than I do..that is if they are a nice person. If they are an ass..we that's a different story!

LiLu said...

Awwww. Your posts make my heart warm lately.

Frank said...

Brilliant!

My mom likes to buy what ever is the cheapest frame she can find...so nearly all of ours are mismatched. And tacky.

Bayjb said...

Such a good analogy. I love the mismatched frames. I think it's just so, creative and a great way to match photos with personalities and situations.

amanda said...

ummmm...this is amazing.
always, always you have me entranced with your powerful writing.

thanks, friend!