Friday, May 15, 2009

Lasting Impressions 15

(Today's Lasting Impressions post was written by the incredibly talented Kyla from Kyla Roma whose writing I absolutely adore.)

My friendship with Amber is hard to describe. I had gone to stay with a friend of the family in rural British Columbia to clear my head after a difficult year of boys, break ups, & university, and I met Amber at the youth centre in her town. She was 18, dressed all in black with extra black eyeliner and bubbling over with incredible positive energy. We bumped into each other and wandered around town for the day.

At the end of the day she asked if she could stay over at my family friend's place. I hadn't had a sleep over with a friend since I was in junior high, and I didn't think that my family friend would mind so I said yes. So when I think of it, I guess the way we met is that... she kind of followed me home.

I left the next day, meaning that we spent maybe 8 hours together, but when I got home to the prairies we started talking on the phone & e-mailing back and forth. In no time we were talking for a few hours every weekend, and it's been that way for three years now.

This is where three years has put us: next to my husband, there is no one who gets me like Amber does. There is no one who calms me down more, who has more insight and perspective into any situation I find myself in, or anyone who is a bigger comfort to me. When her apartment
was broken into this year, I was the first person she talked to after the police. When Mister had my engagement ring in the house, but we weren't sure if we were going to get engaged, Amber is who I phoned (freaking out) on Christmas Eve, and then phoned back two hours later to let her know that we were getting married.

Last year I went to visit her again. We were shell shocked by how much the other person had changed, and overwhelmed with a sense of joy from the reunion. We ran around Vancouver, drinking and laughing as we walked to local clubs, trekked on the Sky Train, haggled for a leather
jacket (now my favourite jacket), and ate veggie dogs in English Bay.

It was heaven.

Something about hanging out with her friends, couch surfing with her, getting ready for the bar, laughing, eating late, writing "THUG LIFE" on her knuckles for her so she looks tough...something about her makes me feel like a normal 20-something. For me, a 23 year old girl who has been working full time and living one her own for three years, and is now married & a home owner? That feeling of being a normal 20 something is an amazing and rare feeling to step into.

I've been missing Amber like crazy lately, so last week I gave her a call. The phone rang and I got her voice mail... and at the moment I heard her message. It was completely unfamiliar. It was Amber, but I didn't recognize it.... and I realized that I'd never heard it before. In three years, I have never left her a message- she has always been there to pick up.

As I was having a full blown revelation about how this girl on the other side of the country is, literally, always there for me and as I was preparing to have that revelation into her answering machine, my call waiting went off.

"AH KYLA I LOVE YOU!! I'm sorry I almost missed you, I'm here! How are you? I MISS YOU!"

What can I say to a friend like that? I was stunned at the odds of our ever having found each other, and the impossible odds of how much she has come to mean to me, and how she is without question one of the sweetest and most loyal people I've ever met. All I could do was laugh
into my phone, "AMBER you scared me! I thought you weren't going to be there!! I miss you too!"

I miss her so much my heart aches, but I'm so happy I have her in my life.

8 comments:

doniree said...

That is SO sweet. I've always believed that THINGS happen for a reason, but this year I've really come to overwhelmingly realize that PEOPLE happen for a reason. You bumped into each other on purpose that day - the universe required that you were to be friends and made sure you didn't miss that!

nory said...

Um, so I'm almost crying at my desk this morning over this post.

I have a friend a lot like that as well. Seven years later and we're still the best of friends even though she lives a few hours away. I'm calling her after work = )

michellewoo said...

I loved reading this. Cynical me thought there'd be some twist at the end maybe about how changed, but I'm so glad you guys are as close as ever. After college, those kinds of friendships are hard to come by.

Mermanda said...

Adorable, Kyla.

Awmb said...

Kyla, I can assure you that all of these feelings are mid definitely mutual. You have been there through every hard time I've had in the most important parts of my life. I really don't know what I'd be like if I hadn't have met you, and I'm greatful to have you in my life.
Oh and ps... We've been friends since I was in grade 10 or 11 (because you met sean and I'm sure laurel was around) I graduated 05 so that makes our friendship to be at least 5 years old!

Amandaaa said...

this is an AMAZING story.
i loved reading it.

that is nuts you had never
heard her voice message. wowza.

sarah marie p said...

What a wonderful post and such a fantastic friendship. Thanks for sharing this, Kyla!

Kyla Roma said...

Amber - I KNEW it had been longer but I couldn't put my finger on how long we had been friends!! You were in grade 10 when we started hanging out? Something about that makes me really happy =)