Friday, March 13, 2009

Lasting Impressions 6

(This Lasting Impressions post was written by the very talented Katie from I Know This Much Is True, who went above and beyond the call of blogger duty to email me this post. Thanks Katie, I really do appreciate it!)

All my life, I’ve been searching for my “group.” In middle school and high school, I floated around to various groups, making lots of friends but never finding a core group of people I was part of. Sure, there were people that I hung out with regularly, and people that I considered my close friends. We had fun times together, and when I think back to high school, they will always be part of my memories. But I never really felt a sense of belonging, the way many close-knit groups of friends do.

Throughout college, I made a whole host of new friends, some close and others mere acquaintances. I joined a sorority and immediately had an entire new gaggle of girl friends. I met friends in classes, dorms, parties, and in the dining hall. Having friends was never a problem, but yet I never found myself as part of a group either. This is still apparent to me when I attend events with college friends—I’m always included but never quite part of the inner crowd. Don’t get me wrong, I adore my college friends and miss them constantly. I just tend to be a “floater” friend who gets along with many people but doesn’t get close to a lot of people.

It may seem like I’m feeling sorry for myself because I’m not part of a close group of friends, but I’m not. In reality, I am part of a close group. The closest group. It just took me several years to realize it.

My mom, my sister, and I are the best group of girlfriends I can possibly imagine. I cannot think of any other women I would rather spend my time with, regardless of the circumstances. We laugh about stupid things, we spend too much money shopping, we splurge on meals at Chick-fil-A and drink too much wine. Even when I’m with my other friends, I find myself thinking about what I would be doing if I were with my mom and sister.

The truth is, I’ve never felt the need to be part of a group, and never felt the need to have another group of people to feel like family. Because my family is my group. They have always been there for me in every capacity, both as family and as friends. A year or so ago, I found a card that summed up my feelings perfectly. It said, “Even if you weren’t my mom, you’re the type of person I’d want to be best friends with.” I know that’s true for my mother and sister. I may have been born into my family by mere accident, but I am so incredibly lucky that they chose to be my best friends too.


Melissa said...

This was a very sweet post... I feel the same way about my mom actually. Thanks!

Anonymous said...

I know exactly where she is coming from! I am very close with my Mom and my sisters. I was part of a group of girlfriends that I considered family but somehow with woman (friends) there is always an opportunity to stab someone in the back. This group of girlfriends was all about that it seems so I took myself out of the group. Now my close circle is my family and fiance. Life is so great now that I have realized this! Thanks for the post and the opportunity for me to reflect as well. Have a great weekend!

Kylie said...

I love this post! My mom and two sisters are three of my best friends. I have a few other girls who are just like family too. I love them all!

kc mom said...

I couldn't agree with your post anymore. I related to this completely!!!! As my husband so eloquently LOVES to say----I won the family lottery. Parents, siblings, aunt, uncles and cousins--WE are our own group!!!

Anonymous said...

i LOVED this post.
Like you, I have many groups of friends, some I'm closer to than other, but I don't get too close to many. I consider myself a friend to many, best friend to just a few. And my mom is totally included in the best friend list.

I'm now going to email my mother =)

Maris said...

Such a wonderful post. Your family will ALWAYS be there for you.

Jess said...

This is awesome. I'm so glad you have that. My mom and sister and I are similar and it is wonderful.