Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Dear Self

Dear Self,

I know that you like to think you have life figured out, but lets be honest, at 13 you’re a clueless awkward young girl struggling to find your footing in life. The next few years will be transformative ones. You’ll figure out who you are, what you love to do and that its ok to be different from everyone else. While I can’t give away any of the surprises (because that would change the ending for both of us), I can give you a few hints that may make the next several years go a little bit more smoothly.

ALWAYS be true to yourself. Along the way there are going to be some people who think that they know what’s best for you. What you have to figure out is what YOU think is best for you. Right now you have so many avenues and opportunities open to you. Read, dream, and explore them all. You will discover so many things about yourself and your beliefs when you learn for yourself instead of just believing what other people tell you. Always question. Never stop questioning. Is only through that process do you find the right answers. Don’t waste your time with people who don’t have your best interests at heart. Fight for what you believe in. Never cave to the demands of others. Sometimes you may stand alone, but that’s ok; knowing that you did what you believe to be right is better than having people respect you for something you don’t believe in. Trust your heart, it’s a good one.

You’re going to make a lot of mistakes and bad decisions along the way. I could tell you not to do them, but we both know you’re hard headed and stubborn enough that you would do them anyway. That’s ok, in fact as you get older that stubbornness will serve you well. Its what teaches you some of the best lessons you could ever learn. Instead of getting frustrated with those mistakes and bad decisions -- embrace them. Learn from them. Own them. Don’t let them defeat you. They’re just a learning experience that’s all. They won’t define you unless you let them. You have to make those mistakes and bad decisions to get to where you’re going and trust me; it’s a great place to be.

The most important thing I can tell you is that its all going to be ok. These next several years are going to throw you all over the place – that’s just how life is. There will be people and situations that break your heart. There will be days you don’t want to get out of bed. There will be times that you are on top of the world and feel like you can conquer anything. There will be times that you are going to be scared out of your mind. . Hang in there when things get tough, celebrate when things are right. Life is perfectly imperfect. Those times when you think your life is over, its not. While the end result of whatever situation you are experiencing may not be what you want, I promise you in the end, you’re always going to be ok.

Enjoy the next several years. I know you can’t comprehend it now, but they are going to go by faster than you think. Take too many pictures, stay out too late, push the boundaries. Take the less travelled road. Be in the moment. Go with your gut. Don’t be deterred by people’s thoughts and opinions. Its ok to cry, but its better to laugh, do both at the same time. Fall hard but always get back up. Smile, be polite but don’t let people take advantage of you. Be afraid but don’t let fear stop you. Be aware of all the beauty around you. Always, always remember that things will be ok.

Love,
Me

P.S. Mom’s right, it wouldn’t kill to you to be a little nicer to your brother.




This letter to myself is my response to the
Twenty Something Writers prompt: If you were able to communicate with your younger self, what would you say? Would you warn yourself of the things that are to come? Would you tell yourself to avoid certain people? Write a letter to yourself at a younger age. Feel free to tell yourself anything that you’d like to. Let us know what age of yourself you are writing to.


What would you tell yourself?

14 comments:

Fritz said...

i LOVE it! i really think i may take your idea and run with it, the possibilities are endless with the thirteen year old me...like yes you will get a horse and no you wont die begging for one...

nory said...

At times while reading this it seemed like you were talking to my 13 year old self.

So beautifully written, so honest and real. Love it!

Little Fish said...

This was so lovely.

It's funny because I've often thought about what I would tell my younger self and I always come to the same conclusion which is that it wouldn't matter what I said because that girl would never have listened to me anyway.

PS- I laughed out loud at your PS :)

Kylie said...

I really like this post and the idea behind it! Great letter Mandy!!

Frank said...

I'd tell myself that it WOULD kill me to be nicer to my brother.

The Alleged Ringleader said...

This is really good. You are dead on when reflecting on yourself and things you do! I have no idea what I would even say to myself!

Katie said...

Thanks for participating. I LOVED your letter. As a lot of people said, I felt like you were talking to me :)

jamie said...

This was great. Truly.

I don't know what I would say to my 13yo self. I might be too afraid to think of it.

MeLaNiE said...

Love it! You have so many neat posts!

Bayjb said...

This is such a great post and so true, especially about the being nicer to your brother part. I need that one too.

Auburn Kat said...

I really, really loved this post!

kc mom said...

Love this post. Love it for me, love it for my daughter. I might just have to "borrow" it as a note to her.
Seriously, amazing writer!!!!

Amanda. said...

This makes me think of the song by Brad Paisley. Letter To Me. Ever hear it? The first time I heard the song...I thought about all these things I'd say to my younger self. And older self. Mmm.

I love your letter. Especially the end.

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

very well written mandy, and mom's are always right - it's best to be nice to our younger siblings