Friday, February 06, 2009

Lasting Impressions One

(Today's Lasting Impressions post was written by the wonderful Ray from Lofty Ideas.)

Growing up, I always had a lot of friends. Neighborhood friends, school friends, church friends, and sports friends. We giggled, shared secrets, shopped, rode bikes, and we were there to pick each other up when we were down. And though I have cherished most of the friendships that I have had throughout my life, people change. Often times someones parent got transferred to another place, or we just grew apart as a result of the forward motion of adolescence. It has been in the last few years of college and beyond that I have learned what it really means to have best friends.

We have what we call our "core group" of friends...seven people, some that went to high school together and some that met in college. I know, without a doubt, that the seven of us will be friends for life. Sure, all seven of us have other friendships that are important to us outside of this group, but "the core group" has always stuck together. These men and woman are closer than family. I know without a doubt if I was ever in need, any one of these people would step up to the plate.

The girls get together and have talks for hours about everything and nothing all at the same time. The guys snowboard, play video games, and drink beer. And when we are all together as a group, we'll have the best times and cause the most trouble in the Chicago land area. ; ) Even thousands of miles were never enough to keep us apart. Collectively, we have been a safety net for one another through many of lives biggest leaps: graduations, weddings, buying first homes, and scoring that first job out of college. We have laughed, cried, screamed, hugged, kissed, and fought...and have never gone without talking for more than a week at a time.

If I could pin down one reason I that I think our friendships have been so solid it would be honesty. I think that being able to talk to your friends about what's bothering you is one of the only ways to remain true to yourself and your friendships. I used to be the type of person to hide my feelings because I never wanted to disturb the peace. My friends have taught me to be honest and forth coming with my feelings, and it has done wonders for my self-esteem and my personal growth.

Friendship is something that can be defined in many different ways to many different people. To me, the ultimate friendship means what I have with these seven people. I wouldn't trade them for anyone in the world.

7 comments:

Katie said...

I love this post. I wish everyone had a core group of friends like this they can fall back on. I have a group of friends like this and I can't tell you how many times they've saved me.

Mandy, can we still submit stories to you? I haven't had time to write one yet, but I'd like to!

Mandy said...

I love this post Ray! Thank you for kicking off the inaugural post with such a great one. Having a core group of friends is vital to my sanity.

Katie-- Yes!! This is an open ended project. I would love to include a post from you (and anyone else who wants to write one)!

Ray said...

Thanks! I enjoyed writing it. :)

Little Fish said...

This is very sweet. I love it!

jamie said...

I agree--this is a sweet post.

Where would we be without our best friends?

Kyla Bea said...

Very cute - I love my core group of friends... I just don't love that they're all moving away this year!!

Andy said...

OKay, this set the bar HIGH. Like, REALLY high.

Sending youmine in the next few days.