Friday, February 20, 2009

Lasting Impressions 3

(Today's Lasting Impressions post is being brought to you by Jen of Jens World.)

I have been racking my brain for a while now on who or what exactly I was going to post about. I have had so many important friends throughout my lifetime that it began to get a little stressful trying to narrow them all down. I didn't think it was right to lump them all together and who really has the time to read zillions of paragraphs about individuals and why they were important to me? I was also feeling a bit lonely in the friend department, considering I had moved away from all of them over five years ago and haven't been back to see anyone in over two. Just phone calls and emails. Then the other night, while Kevin and I were driving back from Target, and I was feeling lower than low, it hit me. It is almost embarrassing to admit now that I think about it, but my best friend was sitting right next to me the entire time. Duh Jen! They say you marry your best friend and now I agree with "them" because I am certainly marrying my best friend and he has been more of a best friend than I could have ever hoped for.

Our first date was a haunted house followed by a long conversation and a movie, Flags of Our Fathers. From the beginning Kevin appreciated my history nerd side and to this day will feed it. When we first met, I did not have the absolute feeling that this was the all illusive 'one' but I did have a feeling. I think now that feeling was the same kind of feeling I had when ever I met any of my very close friends. Its a feeling of comfort and trust and knowing you can be yourself.

We dated for nine months before we moved in together. My opinion being I needed a ring before I would move in with anyone ever again, his opinion being there was no way to have a ring until we lived together. The only way it worked was the amount of trust that i had in him, and every day it grew to a point where I knew he would never hurt me. When we moved in we also gained full time custody of his son. We decided to have a good cop/bad cop type attitude. I get to be the good cop! And things just seem to work.

After a year and a half, we took our family trip out to Washington State. The house we rented was right on the Puget Sound across from Seattle. Right on the water with plenty of rocks for nick to throw in the water. The mountains were glorious, the water blue and the temperature just right. After a week of exploring the city, Kevin and I took a walk along the shore, where he proposed to me-to which i accepted. The whole idea was more just a guarantee that i was going to spend the rest of my life with my best friend. No half pendant with the words written across it, no handmade bracelet but a true commitment that knows no boundaries.

Of course if I had never had a bracelet made for me, or one of the best friend pendants, I would never know what I have now is true friendship. So my lasting impressions are those of my friends from grade school and all the sleep overs. Friends from high school, whom I though I would always be friends with and my friends from college who taught me how to be me.

Kevin and I have so much in common yet are completely different almost yin and yang. But it works and it is wonderful. I only wish that all my friends who had left footprints on my heart before could meet him now. Because it was their influences that helped me to become the person I am today and allow me to love my best friend forever.


Kylie said...

Great post! My husband is definitely my best friend in the world. I have my girls that are my BFF's. But, noobody can compare to the friendship that B and I have. It's so amazing and special! I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world!

Andy said...

Lovely post, Jen!! Stories where the husband & wife complement each other so well to the point they are each other's best friend always make me melt.

Mandy said...

I love that you are marrying your best friend Jen and I couldn't be happier for you. The two of you are so great for each other is sounds like! I hope I have the privilege of meeting your family one day.

Auburn Kat said...

Awwww! That is so sweet!