Monday, January 26, 2009

It Goes On

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on. ~ Robert Frost

Last week was one of extremes. I felt incredibly happy, euphoric even over the election of a new president. I was extremely saddened by the news that a friend’s cancer has returned. A few days later I was happy, content, and looking forward to the weekend. Friday evening, found me on the verge of tears again as I learned another close friend of the family had received a cancer diagnosis earlier that afternoon. That night, I went to bed with a heavy heart wishing I could just stay in bed all weekend with the covers pulled over my head.

Saturday morning I ran errands, then that afternoon met one of my best buds and her husband for a movie. We laughed, we talked about fun up coming plans, and we went in search of wedding invitations for her sister’s upcoming wedding. We wandered around some stores looking for any good deals we might find. We decided to skip lunch and went straight to Cold Stone Creamery where the three of us shared one of their decadent creations. My friend’s husband shook his head as she and I cracked up at inside jokes and he tried to pretend he didn’t know us as we busted out at the exact same time to a song playing over the speakers. It was a wonderful way to spend the afternoon.

My brother and I headed out Saturday night to meet some friends at a local dive bar for a friend’s birthday. There was no karaoke but it didn’t matter, empty beer bottles and a five in the juke box entertained us for a good hour. After that we attempted to play pool. The seven of us spent the next three or four hours just catching up, laughing, there were some shots, a few more rounds ordered and some impromptu dancing to the music. There were tears all around as the friend whose cancer came back realized and let herself feel the emotions of what she is about to go up against. She broke down crying that she couldn’t possibly go through the ordeal again, that she wasn’t strong enough, and that she doesn’t have what it takes to beat the caner again. We all reassured her that she did have the strength and that we loved her with hair, without hair, that we love her unconditionally, and that we would be strong for her when she felt she couldn’t be. Then we all laughed when another friend walked straight into a pole and there was more dancing and laughing. We hugged our goodbyes in the early hours of the morning.

Sunday was spent celebrating my grandma’s 70th birthday with the whole family. I played bored games with my little cousins. We got annoyed with each other, joked around, and laughed until our sides hurt. We ate cupcakes and listened as my grandma got in a few joking jabs at her mother in law. We took lots of pictures and made fun of each other.

There are ups and downs in life. Sometimes life has us feeling that we are on top of the world; other times it has us down on our knees crying. There are events and situations that leave our spirit broken, our hearts heavy, and with the feeling that life will never be the same. There are events and situations that leave us smiling, laughing, and even dancing with happiness. There are friends you know you can always count on in either situation. Laugh. Cry. Dance. Stay in bed for the day. Go out and have fun. As cliché as it sounds--life does indeed go on, no matter what happens.

18 comments:

Maris said...

So true...it's great that you're able to embrace the good and the bad in life, since the good is precious and the bad is unavoidable.

Frank said...

Brillant writing. Take what each day gives and take them as they come. It's all you can do in this world.

Also, Coldstone is amazing. I just wish I didn't have to pay, like, $6 for a tiny scoop of ice cream.

LBluca77 said...

I am sorry about your friend. That is never easy to have to hear or deal with with.

But it is good you were able to find some fun over the weekned and enjoy yourself.

Ashley said...

I'm sorry about the bad news. Sometimes it feels very awkward to me the way life goes on, even when you're grieving.

jamie said...

I don't know if there are many things worse than hearing a loved one is battling cancer. Horrible.

I feel like I had lived a roller coaster and that was just *today*...here's to more "ups"

xo

Kylie said...

Very true. Take it one day at a time and remember that everything happens for a reason. :)

Coconut said...

Gotta love it when life is an emotional rollercoaster...I'm sorry about your friend, but it sounds like she has a great support group.

Stacy said...

I couldn't agree wtih you more!

Andy said...

Great great post Mandy.

I think you know exactly why this fits like a ring in these days for me.

Hope everything goes well with your friends who are battling cancer.

RebeccaC said...

Sounds like quite the roller coaster ride. Thats life I guess. But its great that you've got such a close knit group and a local dive bar to keep you going.

The Alleged Ringleader said...

You definitely have the right attitude! Life goes on and there is not much you can do but be there and supportive for your friends in need!

chickbug said...

Life always picks us up and moves us along...

Auburn Kat said...

You are absolutely right, life does go on. Sometimes it's hard to realize that fact but it is the truth!!!

Bayjb said...

I'm glad you have such a great support system in place to help you. They matter the most. I hope things balance out soon.

Little Fish said...

What a crazy rollercoaster of emotions!

You know that you can always email or IM me if you need to talk!

Katie said...

Such a great post. I am so sorry about both of your friends, I wish them both the best.

In answer to your question, my grad program is Instructional Psychology and Technology...which is a little bit of a mouthful. :)

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

well you just hit that dead on. it's a very good outlet you have there my dear.

Ray said...

It sounds as if you have an amazing support system in your life which is absolutely great! I wish your friends all the best.

In two words: Cancer sucks.