Tuesday, January 13, 2009

College Friends

I met two of my dearest, closest friends while in college. Tee, like me was a resident assistant. Peg was a resident in our dorm. The three of us had very little in common. Tee and I were extreme opposites with Peg typically falling somewhere in the middle.



We were inseparable. Tee and I could typically be found in the lobby skipping class, Peg sitting at the table diligently doing her homework. We played Scrabble until the 4 in the morning while drinking coconut rum mixed with Twister juice from Solo plastic cups. We ate more chips and salsa than any human beings ever should. During exams we smoked Swisher Sweets while sitting on the steps in front of the building, regardless of the time or weather. Our building didn't have an elevator so we made one out of duct tape, masking tape, and sharpies-- we even hung an out of order sign on it. We used to drink cheap beer on the rooftop because Tee and I had keys to the roof door. We led the entire dorm in singalongs during middle of the night fire drills. After Halloween and Thanksgiving, we decided to throw the pumpkins that had decorated the lobby out of the top floor windows, just for fun. Of course we cleaned up the mess afterward. We took random road trips in Tee's standard hatchback which was named Dudley. When Tee and I graduated we arranged it so we could sit next to each other although that meant we weren't in alphabetical order thereby royally screwing things up when our names were called to received our diplomas.

In the years following college, life has taken all of us in different directions. While student teaching Peg discovered that education wasn't something she wanted to do, so she went back to school and became a hair stylist in an uber trendy salon. Tee moved to Pittsburgh and took a job that required her to wear suits and heels everyday, a drastic departure from the sweats and running shoes she wore everyday in college. Peg and I were there watching as Tee said "I do" to the love of her life. She and I were both on the other ends of our cell phones a month ago when Tee incredibly scared and nervous was in the hospital just a few hours away from delivering her twin daughters 5 weeks early. To stay in touch the three of us have conference calls every few months that last half of the afternoon.

These days the three of us get together only once or twice a year. A long weekend spent in Columbus. A St. Patrick's day at Station Square. A few hour dinner at one of our college haunts. It doesn't matter how long its been since our last visit or phone call when I see them, I am instantly at home. We don't spend hours explaining ourselves or whats been happening, its like our last visit or call was days instead of months ago. We grew up together, weathered the quarter life crisis together, and will continue to share all that life has in store for us, together. Peg and I now get to spoil Tee's adorable little girls Z and E. My friendship with Tee and Peg are among the most important relationships in my life. They are the ones I call when I have exciting fun news. The ones I call when my heart is hurting. They also have the power to drive me absolutely crazy. These girls aren't just my friends, they are my family.



The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. ~Elisabeth Foley

20 comments:

Andy said...

Yeah, I agree. My group of friend is also SUPER diverse, we go from the most catholic girl ever to the most atheist girl ever. From the most talkative girl ever to the shiest girl ever. From the goofiest girl ever to the most serious girl ever, etc.

But all and all, we've managed to stay best friends for YEARS now, and if they come with me to the same city in France, I bet our friendship will last many many more years.

Great post Mandy!

LBluca77 said...

Those are the best kinds of friends to have. I know from reading your blog I can tell what a great person you are and they are just as lucky to have you as you are to have them.

Ok now I am craving chips and salsa.

Katie said...

I think everyone needs a group of friends like this! I recently reconnected with one of my best friends from junior high and it was like no time had passed at all.

Great post!

alexa - cleveland's a plum said...

this reminds me of me and my college roommates. it doesn't matter if we only see each other three times a year that's enough.

as cheesy as it sounds our bond can't be broken. you're lucky to have them : )

Auburn Kat said...

I definitely have a group of friends like that...ones that I can just pick up where we left off, even if it's been years since we have seen each other. One of the hardest parts about the fact that I've moved around a lot is that my friends are scattered throughout the US now.

Katie said...

this made me a little teary! my trio is spread across the country--kentucky, texas, and atlanta--and we usually only get to see each other once a year. it's not nearly enough but that annual meeting defines my whole year. we've gone through texas' marriage & divorce, we're getting ready to celebrate atlanta's wedding, and they will be here in KY to see me graduate. 3 times in 6 months?! whoooo hooo!

relationships be damned. friendships like this are the best!

Ashley D said...

This is such a great post. It made me miss my college BFFs like crazy. I think it would be easier for us to stay in touch if we weren't scattered around the world (literally, Texas, NYC, Spain, and Indonesia), but I love those girls so much.

SoMi's Nilsa said...

There's something to be said about getting together with long-distance friends and it feeling like there was no time since the last time you saw one another. Truly priceless. Hold tight onto them!

jamie said...

This post made me miss my friends. Life after college is harder than it should be to keep up with them...but you're right, the ones who you can just catch up with immediately, those are the best kind!

Little Fish said...

This made me cry.

d said...

Aw, that is really sweet. And you're so tan! How do you do it?!

Mandy said...

Andy -- I hope you are all able to go to France togehter! It sucks being separated from your friends.

Lbluca77-- awww, thanks! Now i want chips and salsa too.

Katie -- I love spending time with my friends, I am glad that you were able to reconnect.

Alexa -- thats how I feel like my bond is with these friends.

Auburn Kat -- the hardest part is being so far away, I think everyone should have friends like this!

Katie -- I agree, boys come and go, girlfriends like these are a lifetime! I am so glad that your trio will be together so often!

Ahley -- wow, when you say world, you really mean it. I cannot imagine not even being in the same country with my girls.

Nilsa - you're absolutely right, they are priceless!!

jamie -- it shouldnt be so hard with all the modern technological conviencies to stay in touch should it?

Little Fish -- awww, I didnt mean to make you cry!

d--I naturally have a darker complextion but Peg and Tee, especially Tee are paler than pale so I do look tan next to them. I do go to the tanning bed on occassion though.

Kylie said...

Friends are great! We can't ever take for granted the TRUE friendships in our lives. Great post Mandy!!

Katelin said...

aw such a sweet post. i definitely have close friends like this too and i consider them family more than anything else. love it.

michellewoo said...

Aw, how lucky you are to have these girls. (They're lucky too to have you.) My BFFs drifted after college, but I think we're all past the most turbulent part of our 20s (finally! we're 27 and 28), so we're finding our ways back to each other. I think we each needed some time to grow separately.

Anna said...

My best friend and I are like that. We talk all the time, but only see each other a few times a year now that I am in Wisconsin, but everytime I see her it is like as if I never moved.

The Alleged Ringleader said...

Oh man! Smoking swisher sweets lol, been there!

Bayjb said...

You guys look adorable together. That's so great that you have such a great group of friends that add color to your life :)

Sissy said...

you're cleavage is rockin' with that tan!

RebeccaC said...

Mine are Somer and Sarah. They are my heart and my soul. Thanks for this post. I'm seeing Sarah tomorrow, but you just reminded me to call Somer.