Monday, December 08, 2008

Best Friends? Not So Much

25 comments:

Jess said...

This is so sad. Maybe at some point when you both have some more distance and hopefully things will have improved in her life, then it will be time for you to get back in touch. It's so hard to watch someone spiral downward and know that there's nothing you can do, that for your own sake you have to take a step back.

Stacy said...

I have faith things will work themselves out..one way or another. Hang in there!!

Rachel said...

I wish you knew why things happened on her, it would be easier to handle if you had answers. I wish you luck in all of this.

Stephanie said...

I don't know what to say besides I'm sorry. Maybe one day you'll fit into each others lives again. I hope everything works out the way you want it to.

Coconut said...

Friendship breakups suck, especially when you don't really know what happened. Eventually, when you get enough distance from it, you will be able to laugh and reminisce over the good times again, even if things never go back to the way they were.

Nilsa said...

The beautiful thing about life is how fluid it can be ... constantly changing and moving in new directions. The sad part about that is sometimes people grow out of one another, even when the friendship has been solid for years. The optimistic side is tides may cross again, bringing you two together. If you're open to the idea your friendship needs a break, I hope you'll also be open to the idea you both may be at a place in the future where being close again makes sense.

d said...

This is sad. As someone who struggles with depression as well, the only thing you want is to be alone and to shut everyone out. To spiral downward all on your own.

So I think that maybe that's what she's going through and you just need a little break. My best friend and I tend to go through cycles as well. Good luck and chin up :)

jamie said...

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's so hard. I agree. Friendship breakups are much harder. It sounds like she's been struggling a lot though, and when she comes around(and she will) I hope that you will be able to be there for her--even though it won't be easy. Here's to a brighter tomorrow. Hang in there!

Bayjb said...

I'm so sorry to hear this is going on. Letting go of something like that is so difficult. Things will get better, it just takes time.

Ray said...

friendship break-ups are really awful...especially when nothing sparked the decision to let go other than distance.

I am watching two of my very best friends go through a rough patch...it seems lately the only thing they have in common is me. I really hope that you guys can be OK again one day.

Andy said...

After readin this, I sent my friends an SMS saying somethign like "If you ever don't want me in your life anymore, please let me know the reason".

I don't think how you're putting up with this.

Alexa said...

friendships have hills and valley's they can come in and out of your life. i know this because i have recently gotten back in touch with my former best friend. and it is like no time has passed.

although it may be hard now, it may end up back to normal hopefully!

Auburn Kat said...

These are hard, thankfully I've been able to reconnect with people that I have lost touch with!

Hang in there!

LBluca77 said...

Friendship break ups are hard. I am sorry you are going through this. I have been there and it isn't easy. I hope everything works out.

MeLaNiE said...

I have a hard time letting go too, but it always makes me feel better. Hang in there!

Cameo said...

I'm so sorry. They ARE hard and I've been guilty of having to break off a really good friendship and didn't even tell her why. I just quit answering her calls, when she DID manage to get a hold of me at work I was very cool and got off the phone really quickly. She never knew we stopped being friends. It's been about 13 years and I still miss her. I think about her almost every day. I hear bits and pieces about her and what is going on with her. It sounds to me like your friend has something going on in her life that she doesn't want to share with you and maybe you'll never know what it is. Either way it sucks. Trust me, I'm sure it sucks for her too, although she could go about it a different way. I should have, but I didn't.

Katie said...

This breaks my heart. It's so hard not to know the reasons why for something. I wish I could give you hug.

AntonucciFamily said...

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss of a friendship. I know you will do the right thing and come out on top once you are through this valley.

Little Fish said...

I'm sending you a hug right now. Friendship breakups are so painful, especially wne you don't understand why, but you're doing the right thing.

chickbug said...

Friendship breakups are tough. Especially when you can't pinpoint one thing that happened...just that you grew apart. The good news is, you will also have those memories and a bond together that no one else has. Maybe one day you will reconnect, but for now just remember the good times you had. That is what counts.

Anna said...

I'm so sorry to hear this! Things will get better, it just takes time! Try to keep your chin up.

Frank said...

I feel like I did that to many people. I hit a long stretch of depression about a year ago where I just shut down and was pretty much a huge jerk to everyone. Eventually I pushed a few people away so much that they stopped coming back. 'Tis a sucky feeling, but there's not much I can do now besides try and be a better person in the future.

The Alleged Ringleader said...

I so know what you're going through and yes, friendship breakups are much worse than boyfriend breakups! Especially when you have been friends for so long and so many inside jokes were had. You know everytime you go somewhere or think of certain things you will be thinking of her :(

Princess Pointful said...

This is so hard. You find yourself feeling like you should hold on, yet wondering why you do when it obviously isn't working. I'm still going through this, to a certain extent, actually.

Mandy said...

Thank you all so much for your wonderful comments and beautiful words. I know friendships have their ups and downs and hope that someday we can have a friendship again.