Sunday, November 09, 2008

I'll Be There For You

So no one told you life was going to be this way.
Your job's a joke, you're broke, you're love life's DOA.
It's like you're always stuck in second gear,
Well, it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even your year.

But, I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.
I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too.

"I'll Be There For You" The Rembrandts

Yesterday I spent the majority of the day with my friend B, one of my oldest friends. We don't get to spend a lot of time together due to other commitments, our schedules, and just life; in fact we had to schedule yesterdays outing two months in advance. Typically we just grab a cup of coffee at our favorite local coffee shop or catch up over a quick dinner one weeknight. Saturday was "our" day and did we ever make the most of it. The day included breakfast, shopping, visiting two movie theaters in two separate states to inquire about a midnight viewing of Twilight, playing ROCKBAND on Wii in the middle of Sam's Club for an audience, the purchasing of matching hats and scarves in different colors, Starbucks, and an impromptu picture with a Barack Obama cardboard cut out, as well as lots of other random pictures. We laughed more than we have in a long time.

B and I have a long history together and I quit trying to figure out the why's and how's of our friendship years ago. We first met in middle school, 7th grade I think but we didn't really become friends until a few years later. Our freshman year of high school we had several classes together and by the time our senior year had rolled around to say we were joined at the hip was an understatement.

We were a mismatched pair from the start. She was a preachers kid, I was her only friend who came from a "broken" home. I was loud and opinionated, she was quiet and reserved. She lived in the country, I lived in town. She studied for hours, I usually finished my homework as it was being collected. She planned and made lists, I threw caution to the wind. She had a set curfew, I didn't know the meaning of the word. For some unexplainable reason, our friendship just worked.

Over the years we've giggled over boys (blond hair blue eyed for her, dark hair brown eyed ones for me), stayed up all night watching movies her parents would have grounded her forever over, passed notes in class undoubtedly getting us into trouble. We counted down the days until our Close-Up trip to Washington, DC. We arranged our senior schedule so we have every class together but one. We spent a week frolicking around a few Canadian cities hoping to find guys with French accents to fall in love with. We worked at the same after school and summer job, spiking coffee with Kahlua, tipping over beer carts by taking a turn too fast, and running around the golf course after hours when the sprinklers were on. We celebrated our graduation from high school together. I held her hand as she battled some personal issues and she held mine when my mom remarried. A few years into college, we both found ourselves drawn further and further away from each other. Visits every few weeks turned into every few months, then just stopped altogether; as did the phone and instant message conversations.

Four or five years later, out of the blue she sent me an email that simply said "I miss you." I picked up the phone and later that evening we met for coffee. Those years of not talking kaleidoscoped, we picked up right we had left off. Neither of us could remember why we stopped talking -- there was no big fight or falling out, it was just something that had just simply come to an end, no ones fault.

We're still as opposite today as we were when we were younger, probably even more so. I talk her into things, she talks me out of other things. Shes married and hoping for children. She knows I can't babysit until they are toilet trained and can eat solid foods. She prefers bible study, I prefer the bar and we long ago stopped inviting one another to those places. She's a morning person, I love the nights. But when her husband is out of town once or twice a year, we're usually camped out on her couches, watching DVDs of Friends or The Gilmore Girls, eating popcorn and giggling like we are 14 years old again. We've had our ups and downs, our differences, but just like the theme song of the show that defined our high school years we know that we'll always there for each other--probably wearing goofy hats with tassles on the end and making funny faces.


Rachel said...

You are very fortunate to have someone like that in your life. She sounds awesome.

It's okay, you can tell her I said that ;)

Stacy said...

Friendships like that are priceless! Thanks for sharing :)

Preachin Patrick said...

It looks like you guys had a great time! Thanks for sharing those pictures. It is nice to see B and to read that she is doing well. Glad you had a good weekend!

Tiffany said...

i just did my post on my bff and now read this and i love it!!!! i am so glad you have a b too!! love the pcitures and all the memories!! i have to add you to my link love!

LBluca77 said...

When you said she was the preachers kid and live in the country I immediately thought you guys grew up in Footloose.

Sounds like you guys had a great time together and a great friendship.

Andy said...

Awwww.... Now I know what you meant a special day with your BF.

I have some of those, too. I just don't know if I could post the pictures.

Dana said...

you have a very cute blog!! i love it!!

Auburn Kat said...

I have a friend like that too, we are very different but we have managed to stay friends since kindergarten!

Anna said...

Great post! This sounds like my best friend and I. We've been friends since we were 2 (we were neighbors)and are still best friends today even though we are as different as day and night.

Frank said...

Unfortunately I don't remember most of my best times with my friends...mostly because I was drunk.

Mandy said...

Rachel -- she is pretty awesome!

Stacy -- I agree, they are and so hard to come by.

AntonucciFam--She is doing well! Sounds like you had a great weekend too!

Tiffany -- Thanks for adding me, I read your post not too long after I wrote this one.

Lbluca77--Our story would make a good movie. LOL.

Andy -- Sure you could! Do it Do it!

Dana -- Thanks for stopping by! Come back again...

Auburn Kat--isnt it amazing how opposites seem to attract.

Anna--I love hearing stories about other best friends.

Frank--I have some friends like that too. :-)

Bayjb said...

I think it's really great that you have someone like that in your life. This is very touching. I also love that you both drove to movie theaters about midnight showings. lol.

Princess Pointful said...

It shows that friendship is about something so much deeper than just shared interest. I'm glad you two still have each other.