Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Dog Fights

Operation Bring Bosley Home has not been going smoothly and tomorrow he will be returning to the care of the rescue organization. When we picked him up on Monday, the wonderful lady who helped us get both Sandy and Bosley suggested we bring Bosley home to see how the two dogs interacted. We all had high hopes and really, really wanted everything to work out. The first night they were not great, but not bad with each other. They scrapped a little and we were expecting this, since we had both read and heard that dogs need to establish an order.

The past few days both Big T and I have spent the days in tears and with knots in our stomach. The dogs despise each other. To the point that there is no such thing as play fighting, in fact play fighting never really existed. Sandy and Bosley fight like dogs that have been bred for dog fights, practically mauling each other. I couldnt even watch it and had to go in the house. There is crying, yelping, deep throat growling and barking, hackles on end, and stick straight tails. Sandy has also started to shut down in a way that goes beyond being upset that there is another dog in the house.

Bosley's background is that of a wanderer. He has had to fend for himself, fight other dogs, and has most likely been abused. Which is by no means an easy life. We were initially going to wait it out a week or two, but tonight after a pretty bad fight, for the safety of both dogs a decision had to be made. There is no doubt in my mind that Bosley is an amazing and great dog. When we have him outside or in the house by himself he is wonderful. He is just a bit too rough for Sandy and needs a family where he can be the only, top dog. Unfortunately, thats not ours. We have been on the phone almost non-stop trying to get pointers and new ideas to try. From crating, to separating, from time outs. Earlier this evening we made the mutual decision with the contact from the rescue organization that Bosley deserves a family who can give him their sole attention. I am upset, but in the end know that its the best decision for both dogs.

The past two days have been emotional -- nervousness, fear, happiness, worry, and sadness. The lady from the rescue organization is going to keep us in mind and we aren't ruling out the possibility of having a second dog in the future. Or if we were meant to be a one dog family, thats ok too. My mom and I are going to start becoming involved in dog rescues doing transports, coordinating shelter pulls, and those sorts of things.



You're a great dog Bos, and you will made some family very happy. We were just a detour on the road to your forever home. I'm sorry that we weren't it.

9 comments:

Andy said...

Too bad Bosley didn't make it. I think that our case was a bit different, because our rescued dog is a scottie. They're possessive dogs and all, but she had to learn how to survive in a house where there were, not only one, but two other dogs. Bigger than her.
At the beginning, we thought of returning her, but with time, we managed to settle them. They still fight, but it's not such a big problem.
If you really want another dog, you should try to get a baby dog, a little puppy. That way Sandy will not feel in danger and the pup will have to get accostumed.

Mandy said...

The lady from the rescue suggested a puppy too. Sandy and Bosley are close in age. I think the background they came from play a large part of it too. But the fights, were way too dangerous both dogs.

Rachel said...

I HIGHLY recommended the Dog Whisperer (his book or show). He helped me a LOT with Moxie and bringing her in to the house with a one year old. I'm sorry this didn't work out, I hope you have better luck next time.

Mandy said...

Tahnks Rachel. I will be checking out his book. I've heard great things about it. We did a lot of reading before we brought Bosley home, I just think their personalities were too different and they were too close to the same age.

RebeccaC said...

Boy, that is so heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you guys but I give you huge props for trying to bring another dog into your family. Don't be too hard on yourselves...these things always shake out the way their supposed to. Hopefully Bosley's forever family is out there waiting for him and the right doggie #2 is waiting for you! My fingers are crossed for you!

Sissy said...

It just wasn't meant to be. If you wouldn't have tried it, you would have regretted it.

So sorry you have been worried and stressed about it. Time will make it a bit easier.

Thinking of you....

Mandy said...

RebeccaC--I have no doubts that the rescue group will find the perfect forever family for him. He was a very sweet dog on his own.

Sissy--Yes, we would have regretted not trying. Thanks for your thoughts!

chickbug said...

Sounds like you are making the right decision. Good luck to Bosley!

kay* said...

aww i'm so sorry it didn't work out. hopefully bosley will find a good home :o)